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Post by Drakor on Sept 19, 2002 12:43:19 GMT -5
What is it you want to know send me a message. I tell you one way or another.  |
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Post by Arkine on Sept 19, 2002 12:58:16 GMT -5
Drakor,
Unfortunately my post got a little screwed up. In anycase it won't let me post all of it anyways, it's over 5,000 characters. Let's just put it this way, my life has gone into chaos, I'm trying to find a job, get moved (to another town 3 1/2 hrs away), get my fiancee off of alcohol, raise a daughter and trying desperately to decide if I should pursue a career in a police department after an incedent has left a dark cloud over my life. I can't even get a job at a gas station at the moment, and it was all supposed to be over with at the end of July, but it's stayed to haunt me so to speak. Now I don't know what the heck I should do.
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Post by Charlie on Sept 20, 2002 1:29:16 GMT -5
Arkine--Sounds like you have definitely had better days! But, hang in there and take things one step at a time to restore some order back in your life. I would also suggest that you should be primarily focused upon both you and your child's needs for the time being.  In short, I think trying to handle both your own and your fiance's problems is NOT what you need to do. Honestly ask yourself HOW can you help someone else when you are in the position of needing help yourself? Besides, if fiance' cares about you like the term "fiance' " seems to imply, why isn't HE helping you out with your problem(s)? Maybe re-evaluaing the status of your personal relationship might be what's needed as well.....  I know your post is short and I don't have all the relevant details & facts BUT,.... if your life is currently a little on the turbulent side and you're tryig to work through several personal issues at once, I think your LE career pursuit needs to be side tracked for the time being till you regain your stability. Otherwise, I'd suspect an LE career pursuit at this time would be a temporary futile effort. Despite your very broad and general description of your situaton, I hope I may have contributed something worth thinking about. Good luck..... Charlie |
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Post by Arkine on Sept 20, 2002 11:09:01 GMT -5
Charlie,
Thanks for the thoughts, and you do have some good points there. It's hard to think of ending a relationship after 8 years, and I don't think I'm ready to call it quits just yet. I'm a fairly stubborn person and don't like to give things up. I'm hoping that moving will put some order back in our lives. We'll both have to work and probably take turns taking our daughter to daycare, stuff like that. Plus we'll have to becareful about our money and budget it properly so I don't think he'll be spending so much on the booze anymore....well hopefully. I suppose a lot of my own stress is the fact that I've lost my driving goal for the time being. It used to be anything that got in the way of something that I wanted got "picked up" and moved out of the way. Now I find that things are much more delicate especially with his problems. It's hard to "pick him up" and move him because that's not the way a realtionship should be...not that I haven't picked him up before and knocked him on his butt....~evil grin~ Another story though. Anyhow thanks for the suggestions, I try to take all views I get and really think on them. ~S~
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In short, I think trying to handle both your own and your fiance's problems is NOT what you need to do. Honestly ask yourself HOW can you help someone else when you are in the position of needing help yourself? Besides, if fiance' cares about you like the term "fiance' " seems to imply, why isn't HE helping you out with your problem(s)? Maybe re-evaluaing the status of your personal relationship might be what's needed as well..... 